The Secrets The Power

The Secrets..... .......The Power....... ......

* The First Secret: The power of Love.
Love begins with our thoughts. We become what we think. Loving thoughts create loving experiences and loving relationships. Affirmations can change our beliefs and thoughts about ourselves and others. If we want to love someone, we need to consider their needs and desires. Thinking about your ideal partner will help recognize him or her when you meet.

* The Second Secret: The power of Respect.
You cannot love anyone or anything unless you first respect them. The first person you need to respect is yourself. To begin to gain self-respect ask yourself,
"What do I respect about myself? " To gain respect for others, even those you may dislike, ask yourself, "What do I respect about them?"

* The Third Secret: The power of Giving.
If you want to receive love, all you have to do is give it! The more love you give, the more you will receive. To love is to give of yourself, freely and
unconditionally. Practice random acts of kindness. The secret formula of a happy, lifelong relationship is to always focus on what you can give instead of you can take.

* The Fourth Secret: The power of Friendship.
To find true love you must first find a true friend. To love someone completely you must love them for who they are not what they look like. Friendship is the
soil through which love's seeds grow. If you want to bring love into a relationship, you must first bring friendship.


* The Fifth Secret: The power of Touch.
Touch is one of the most powerful expressions of love, breaking down barriers and bonding relationships. Touch changes our physical and emotional states and
makes us more receptive to love.

* The Sixth Secret: The power of Letting go.
If you love something, let it be free. Even in a loving relationship, people need their space. If we want to learn to love, we must first learn to forgive
and let go of past hurts and grievances. Love means letting go of our fears, prejudices, egos and conditions.


* The Seventh Secret: The power of Communication.
To love someone is to communicate with them. Let the people you love know; that you love and appreciate them. Never be afraid to say, "I love you." Never let an opportunity pass to praise and acknowledge someone. Always leave someone you love with a loving word ... it could be the last time you see them.


* The Eighth Secret: The power of Commitment.
If you want to have love in abundance, you must be committed to it. Commitment is the true test of love. If you want to have loving relationships, you must be committed to loving relationships. When you are committed to someone or something, quitting is never an option. Commitment distinguishes a fragile
relationship from a strong, loving one.


* The Ninth Secret: The power of Passion.

Passion ignites love and keeps it alive. Lasting passion does not come through physical attraction alone. It comes from deep commitment, enthusiasm, interest and excitement. The essence of love and happiness are the same, all we need to do is to live each day with passion.


* The Tenth Secret: The power of Trust.
You cannot love someone completely unless you trust them completely. Act as if your relationship with the person you love will never end. Trust is essential in
all loving relationships. Trust yourself, trust others and trust the world. It is the foundation for LOVE.

Always make your absence
felt in such a way That...
some one misses you BUT...
let not your absence be so longggg
THAT some one starts learning to live
WITHOUT YOU......

In Search of Dignified Leader - 1

Kai-Alexander Schlevogt on Strategic Leadership

When the perfect English butler Stevens in the novel The Remains of the Day is asked how he defines dignity, he answer bathetically that it comes down to not removing one's clothing in public. In view of the erosion of dignity in our times, alas, this currently appears to be the lowest common denominator for leaders.

Dignity, a highly elastic concept, is difficult to describe, but easy to see. In essence, a dignified person is somebody who carries himself in a way that merits respect. For the leader, dignity denotes a noble bearing that makes him worthy of being followed.

Clearly, people differ about what constitutes commendable conduct, since their judgment is heavily influenced by idiosyncratic values. But my "gut test of dignity" proves highly effective - try it at the next party: You first present your test subjects, who might hold opposing word views, with diverse sample of well-known individuals. When you ask who in the lineup is dignified, the respondents usually concur in their verdict.

For example, most of us viscerally agree that the German Pope Benedict XVI, Roman Catholic nun Mother Teresa of Calcutta and British Queen Elizabeth II epitomize this remarkable and rare quality.

Dignity is not only the hallmark of human civilization that distinguishes us from apes but also the measure of a leader. It serves as an internal fountain of strength and creates valuable social capital. It is the only thing you can always rely on, a valuable succor when you face moments of truth and are denied outside support. The relationship between leader and follower, such as that between master and apprentice, is sacred. Especially is Asia, people want to be able to look up to their superiors.

With dignity, you may be able to push through reforms even if you are unpopular. Former British Prime Minister Margaret Thatcher, also known as the "Iron Lady", is a point in case. Because of the associated moral capital, dignity bestows authority on you even when you do not hold any formal position anymore.

Given the lasting impact of dignity, it surprises that many contemporary leaders seem to compete for the rank of most vulgar and indecent public persona in a sort of permanent reality show. When people think of former US President Bill Clinton, they usually remember his escapades with a young female intern, not his policies. He is also notorious for having discussed his choice of underwear in public.

French celebrity president Nicolas Sarkozy, whom many regard as arriviste and uncouth, shows how indignity can transform a top official into laughing stock and undermine his political effectiveness. The hyperactive and omnipresent politician got involved in a divorce saga and started a headline-grabbing romance with a model of disputed moral standards. He later embarrassed officials in India by holding out the prospect of visiting the subcontinent with her. He showed utter disregard for the mores of a land where liaisons out of wedlock are widely deemed improper. As an encore, a video clip was posted on the web, showing how the capricious head of state swore at a citizen who refused to shake his hands at the annual farming fair in Paris.

Some actors and other celebrities, who also lead many people through their example, choose drunk driving as a favorable pastime and thus make it fashionable. They do not even find it particularly objectionable to go to prison.

Dignity is partly innate but can be strengthened through determined efforts. The analogy of piano-playing is instructive: There are natural talents and less gifted individuals, but the latter still can improve through correct exercise.

(to be continued)

MORNING CHAT with GOD

God:
Hello. Did you call Me?

Me:
Called you? No. Who is this?

God:
This is GOD. I heard your prayers. So I thought I would chat.

Me:
I do pray. Just makes me feel good. I am actually busy now. I am in the midst of something..

God:
What are you busy at? Ants are busy too.

Me:
Don't know. But I can't find free time. Life has become hectic. It's rush hour all the time.

God:
Sure. Activity gets you busy. But productivity gets you results. Activity consumes time. Productivity frees it.

Me:
I understand. But I still can't figure out. By the way, I was not expecting YOU to buzz me on instant Messaging chat.

God:
Well I wanted to resolve your fight for time, by giving you some clarity. In this net era, I wanted to reach you through the Medium you are comfortable with.

Me:
Tell Me, why has life become complicated now?

God:
Stop analyzing life. Just live it. Analysis is what makes it complicated.

Me:
Why are we then constantly unhappy?

God:
Your today is the tomorrow that you worried about yesterday. You are worrying because you are analyzing. Worrying has become your habit. That's why you are not happy.

Me:
But how can we not worry when there is so much uncertainty?

God:
Uncertainty is inevitable, but worrying is optional.

Me:
But then, there is so much pain due to uncertainty. .

God:
Pain is inevitable, but suffering is optional.

Me:
If suffering is optional, why do good people always suffer?

God:
Diamond cannot be polished without friction. Gold cannot be purified without fire. Good people go through trials, but don't suffer. With that experience their life become better not bitter.

Me:
You mean to say such experience is useful?

God:
Yes. In every term, Experience is a hard teacher. She gives the test first and the lessons afterwards.

Me:
But still, why should we go through such tests?
Why cant we be free from problems?

God:
Problems are Purposeful Roadblocks Offering Beneficial Lessons (to) Enhance Mental Strength. Inner strength comes from struggle and endurance, not when you are free from problems.

Me:
Frankly in the midst of so many problems, we don't know where we are heading..

God:
If you look outside you will not know where you are heading. Look inside. Looking outside, your dream.
Looking inside, you awaken. Eyes provide sight. Heart provides insight.

Me:
Sometimes not succeeding fast seems to hurt more than moving in the right direction. What should I do?

God:
Success is a Measure as decided by others.
Satisfaction is a Measure as decided by you.
Knowing the road ahead is more satisfying than knowing you rode ahead.
You work with the compass. Let others work with the clock.

Me:
In tough times, how do you stay motivated?

God :
Always look at how far you have come rather than how far you have to go.
Always count your blessing, not what you are missing.

Me:
What surprises you about people?

God:
When they suffer they ask, "why Me?" When they prosper, they never ask "Why Me" Everyone wishes to have truth on their side, but few want to be on the side of the truth.

Me:
Sometimes I ask, who am I, why am I here. I can't get the answer.

God:
Seek not to find who you are, but to determine who you want to be.
Stop looking for a purpose as to why you are here. Create it. Life is not a process of discovery but a process of creation.

Me:
How can I get the best out of life?

God:
Face your past without regret. Handle your present with confidence. Prepare for the future without fear.

Me:
One last question. Sometimes I feel my prayers are not answered.

God:
There are no unanswered prayers. At times the answer is NO.

Me:
Thank you for this wonderful chat. I am so happy to start the New Day with a new sense of inspiration.

God:
Well. Keep the faith and drop the fear.
Don't believe your doubts and doubt your beliefs.
Life is a mystery to solve not a problem to resolve.
Trust Me. Life is wonderful if you know how to live.

Be a WINNER to SUCCESS

WINNER

Winner is what you are born to be
It is a heavenly call that we all should realize
Nourish your inner human kind with wisdom to energize you from within
Nurture your outer human kind with blessing to give you strength to take action
Embrace the loving guidance that gives you the ability to
Renew your Spirit, your Soul and your Body

So you may fulfill your destiny to become a
WINNER
as you are created to be

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SUCCESS

If you think YOU ARE BEATEN -- YOU ARE (what else -- a loser)

If you think YOU DARE NOT -- YOU DON'T (will always be a loser)

If YOU LIKE TO WIN, but you think YOU CAN'T (weak faith, means always a loser)

It is almost certain YOU WON'T (if even if you try, still will be a loser. Because trying means you faith is not absolute)
If YOU THINK YOU'LL LOSE -- YOU'RE LOST (Sadly there a lot who feel this way)

For out of this world we find
SUCCESS begins with a FELLOW'S WILL
(It is absolutely necessary and important)

It's ALL IN THE STATE OF MIND
(Success and winning is an attitude based on will or faith to win or succeed. Nothing else. . !)

If YOU THINK YOU ARE OUTCLASSED -- YOU ARE (You make yourself what you become)
You've got to think HIGH to RISE (Success is surviving against all odds. No retreat, no surrender)
You've got to be SURE OF YOURSELF (Have a mindset of being a winner, not a loser.
Remember the Law of Attraction, what you think that is what you become.)

Before you can ever win a PRIZE (No pain, no gain)

Life's battles don't always go to the stronger or faster man (Success is not hard work, but smartly do more for others and make a difference in their lives.)

But sooner or later -- (Surely if you persevere and do noble deeds.)

THE MAN WHO WINS
IS THE MAN WHO THINKS HE CAN
Success is a choice
you either choose "I can not" or "I can"

Just convert from
"I cannot" mindset
to
"I can" frame of mind

Words Meaning and Interesting Facts

PLAN
while others are playing

STUDY
while others are sleeping

DECIDE
while others are delaying

PREPARE
while others are daydreaming

BEGIN
while others are procrastinating

WORK
while others are wishing

SAVE
while others are wasting

LISTEN
while others are talking

SMILE
while others are frowning

COMMEND
while others are criticizing

PERSIST
while others are quitting

Some Interesting Facts:

Whenever I find the key to success, someone changes the lock.

To Err is human, to forgive is not a COMPANY policy.

The road to success??.. Is always under construction.

Alcohol doesn't solve any problems, but if you think again, neither does Milk.

In order to get a Loan, you first need to prove that you don't need it.

All the desirable things in life are either illegal, expensive or fattening.

Since Light travels faster than Sound, people appear brighter before you hear them speak.

Everyone has a scheme of getting rich?.. Which never works.

If at first you don't succeed?. Destroy all evidence that you ever tried.

You can never determine which side of the bread to butter. If it falls down, it will always land on the buttered side.

Anything dropped on the floor will roll over to the most inaccessible corner.

As soon as you mention something?? if it is good, it is taken?. If it is bad, it happens.

He who has the gold, makes the rules ---- Murphy's golden rule.

If you come early, the bus is late. If you come late?? the bus is still late.

Once you have bought something, you will find the same item being sold somewhere else at a cheaper rate.

When in a queue, the other line always moves faster and the person in front of you will always have the most complex of transactions.

If you have paper, you don't have a pen??. If you have a pen, you don't have paper?? if you have both, no one calls.

Especially for Students ---- If you have bunked the class, the professor has taken attendance.

You will pick up maximum wrong numbers when on roaming.

The door bell or your mobile will always ring when you are in the bathroom.

After a long wait for bus no.20, two 20 number buses will always pull in together and the bus which you get in will be crowded than the other.

If your exam is tomorrow, there will be a power cut tonight.

Irrespective of the direction of the wind, the smoke from the cigarette will always tend to go to the non-smoker.

WHAT TREE DID YOU FALL FROM?

Find your birthday and then find your tree. This is really cool and somewhat accurate. Then send it to your friends, including the one that sent it to you, so they can find out what tree they fell from, but don't forget to change the subject line to your tree. Find your tree below and see what you are like...

Jan 01 to Jan 11 - Fir Tree
Jan 12 to Jan 24 - Elm Tree
Jan 25 to Feb 03 - Cypress Tree
Feb 04 to Feb 08 - Poplar Tree
Feb 09 to Feb 18 - Cedar Tree
Feb 19 to Feb 28 - Pine Tree
Mar 01 to Mar 10 - Weeping Willow Tree
Mar 11 to Mar 20 - Lime Tree
Mar 21 (only) - Oak Tree
Mar 22 to Mar 31 - Hazelnut Tree
Apr 01 to Apr 10 - Rowan Tree
Apr 11 to Apr 20 - Maple Tree
Apr 21 to Apr 30 - Walnut Tree
May 01 to May 14 - Poplar Tree
May 15 to May 24 - Chestnut Tree
May 25 to Jun 03 - Ash Tree
Jun 04 to Jun 13 - Hornbeam Tree
Jun 14 to Jun 23 - Fig Tree
Jun 24 (only) - Birch Tree
Jun 25 to Jul 04 - Apple Tree
Jul 05 to Jul 14 - Fir Tree
Jul 15 to Jul 25 - Elm Tree
Jul 26 to Aug 04 - Cypress Tree
Aug 05 to Aug 13 - Poplar Tree
Aug 14 to Aug 23 - Cedar Tree
Aug 24 to Sep 02 - Pine Tree
Sep 03 to Sep 12 - Weeping Willow Tree
Sep 13 to Sep 22 - Lime Tree
Sep 23 (only) - Olive Tree
Sep 24 to Oct 03 - Hazelnut Tree
Oct 04 to Oct 13 - Rowan Tree
Oct 14 to Oct 23 - Maple Tree
Oct 24 to Nov 11 - Walnut Tree
Nov 12 to Nov 21 - Chestnut Tree
Nov 22 to Dec 01 - Ash Tree
Dec 02 to Dec 11 - Hornbeam Tree
Dec 12 to Dec 21 - Fig Tree
Dec 22 (only) - Beech Tree
Dec 23 to Jan 01 - Apple Tree

TREES (in alphabetical order)

Apple Tree (Love)
quiet and shy at times, lots of charm, appeal, and attraction, pleasant attitude, flirtatious smile, adventurous, sensitive, loyal in love, wants to love and be loved, faithful and tender partner, very generous, many talents, loves children, needs affectionate partner.

Ash Tree (Ambition)
extremely attractive, vivacious, impulsive, demanding, does not care for criticism, ambitious, intelligent, talented, likes to play with fate, can be very egotistic, reliable, restless lover, sometimes money rules over the heart, demands attention, needs love and much emotional support.

Beech Tree (Creative)
has good taste, concerned about its looks, materialistic, good organization of life and career, economical, good leader, takes no unnecessary risks, reasonable, splendid lifetime companion, keen on keeping fit (diets, sports, etc.).

Birch Tree (Inspiration)
vivacious, attractive, elegant,friendly, unpretentious, modest, does not like anything in excess, abhors the vulgar, loves life in nature and in calm, not very passionate, full of imagination, little ambition, creates a calm and content atmosphere.

Cedar Tree (Confidence)
of rare strength, knows how to adapt, likes unexpected presents, of good health, not in the least shy, tends to look down on others, self-confident, a great speaker, determined, often impatient, likes to impress others, has many talents, industrious, healthy optimism, waits for the one true love, able to make quick decisions.

Chestnut Tree (Honesty)
of unusual stature, impressive, well-developed sense of justice, fun to be around, a planner, born diplomat, can be irritated easily, sensitive of others feelings, hard worker, sometimes acts superior, feels not understood at times, fiercely family oriented, very loyal in love, physically fit.

Cypress Tree (Faithfulness)
strong, muscular, adaptable, takes what life has to give but doesn't necessarily like it, strives to be content, optimistic, wants to be financially independent, wants love and affection, hates loneliness, passionate lover which cannot be satisfied, faithful, quick-tempered at times, can be unruly and careless, loves to
gain knowledge, needs to be needed.

Elm Tree (Noble-mindedness)
pleasant shape, tasteful clothes, modest demands, tends not to forgive mistakes, cheerful, likes to lead but not to obey, honest and faithful partner, likes making decisions for others, noble-minded, generous, good sense of humor, practical.

Fig Tree (Sensibility)
very strong minded, a bit self-willed, honest, loyal, independent, hates contradiction or arguments, hard worker when wants to be, loves life and friends, enjoys children and animals, sexually oriented, great sense of humor, has artistic talent and great intelligence.

Fir tree (Mysterious)
extraordinary taste, handles stress well, loves anything beautiful, stubborn, tends to care for those close to them, hard to trust others, yet a social butterfly, likes idleness and laziness after long demanding hours at work, rather modest, talented, unselfish, many friends, very reliable.

Hazelnut Tree (Extraordinary)
charming, sense of humor, very demanding but can also be very understanding, knows how to make a lasting impression, active fighter for social causes and politics, popular, quite moody, sexually oriented, honest, a perfectionist, has a precise sense of judgment and expects complete fairness.

Hornbeam Tree (Good Taste)
of cool beauty, cares for its looks and condition, good taste, is not egoistic, makes life as comfortable as possible, leads a reasonable and disciplined life, looks for kindness and acknowledgment in an emotional partner, dreams of unusual lovers, is seldom happy with its feelings, mistrusts most people, is never sure of its decisions, very conscientious.

Lime Tree (Doubt)
intelligent, hard working, accepts what life dishes out, but not before trying to change bad circumstances into good ones, hates fighting and stress, enjoys getaway vacations, may appear tough, but is actually soft and relenting, always willing to make sacrifices for family and friends, has many talents but not always enough time to
use them, great leadership qualities, is jealous at times but extremely loyal.

Maple Tree (Independence of Mind)
no ordinary person, full of imagination and originality, shy and reserved, ambitious, proud, self-confident, hungers for new experiences, sometimes nervous, has many complexities, good memory, learns easily, complicated love life, wants to impress.

Oak Tree (Brave)
robust nature, courageous, strong, unrelenting, independent, sensible, does not like change, keeps its feet on the ground, person of action.

Olive Tree (Wisdom)
loves sun, warmth and kind feelings, reasonable, balanced, avoids aggression and violence, tolerant, cheerful, calm, well-developed sense of justice, sensitive, empathetic, free of jealousy, loves to read and the company of sophisticated people.

Pine Tree (Peacemaker)
loves agreeable company, craves peace and harmony, loves to help others, active imagination, likes to write poetry, not fashion conscious, great compassion, friendly to all, falls strongly in love but will leave if betrayed or lied to, emotionally soft, low self esteem, needs affection and reassurance.

Poplar Tree (Uncertainty)
looks very decorative, talented, not very self-confident, extremely courageous if necessary, needs goodwill and pleasant surroundings, very choosy, often lonely, great animosity, great artistic nature, good organizer, tends to lean toward philosophy, reliable in any situation, takes partnership seriously.

Rowan Tree (Sensitivity)
full of charm, cheerful, gifted without egoism, likes to draw attention, loves life, motion, unrest, and even complications, is both dependent and independent, good taste, artistic, passionate, emotional, good company, does not forgive.

Walnut Tree (Passion)
unrelenting, strange and full of contrasts, often egotistic, aggressive, noble, broad horizon, unexpected reactions, spontaneous, unlimited ambition, no flexibility, difficult and uncommon partner, not always liked but often admired, ingenious strategist, very jealous and passionate, no compromise.

Weeping Willow (Melancholy)
likes to be stress free, loves family life, full of hopes and dreams, attractive, very empathetic, loves anything beautiful, musically inclined, loves to travel to exotic places, restless, capricious, honest, can be influenced but is not easy to live with when pressured, sometimes demanding, good intuition, suffers in love until they find that one loyal, steadfast partner; loves to make others laugh.

SERENITY and MATURITY

The Relief for Trouble Heart ....
SERENITY

Serenity is the relief of trouble heart
Eventide of life may come to bring darkness into our life
Rumbles of problems may attack our way
Exasperation and fear may trouble us
Narrow and Dark path lies ahead to score us
In this polluted, stained and imperfect world, we can not escape from such events
The only thing we can do is to have serenity in the loving God, since
Yonder lies the rainbow of joy for those who has faith that God will make the sun shine again


is an art of Mastery...
MATURITY

Maturity is an art of Mastery
Away of thinking widely and wisely
The skill of decision making, discretion and take action
Ultimate source of strength in solving the problems of life
Reflecting the real condition of a person's heart
Integrity, dependability, responsibility are the proof of Maturity
Task accomplishment is the fruit of it
Yoke of God's discipline is the tool to help us to grow to Maturity

INTEGRITY & SIMPLICITY

INTEGRITY
Integrity is the Heart of a Meaningful Life
No hypocrisy and dishonesty may take part in it
The walk and talk are always in the same tune
Echoing in daily life to bless everyone around
Guiding others to live in Harmony
Remarkable tracks are made along the way
Integrity will make your name written in everyone's heart with golden ink
To keep your Integrity in this changing world you should take the unchanging God's word to be your standard
Years of meaningful life ahead will be your reward


SIMPLICITY
Simplicity is a stress-free lifestyle
It is living in honest and simple way
Maintain your life from arrogance, greed, over react, jealousy, dishonesty, and hypocrisy those only lead you to stressful complexity
Problems are being simplified and solved
Let this life guided by the Spirit from Above
In all kinds of circumstances, just keep the inner peace and..
Creative solution for problems then will be shown
It is living based on sincerity, righteousness, truth and Divine Wisdom
Touching others hearts with sincere love, affection and action
Your days will be stress-free if you live in simplicity

I BELIEVE

I BELIEVE —
that we don't have to change friends if we understand that friends change.

I BELIEVE —
that no matter how good a friend is, they're going to hurt you every once in a while and we must forgive them for that.

I BELIEVE —
that it's not WHAT you have, but WHO you have in your life that counts the most..

I BELIEVE —
that our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are, but we are responsible for who we become.

I BELIEVE —
that your life can be changed in a matter of seconds by people who you don't even know.

I BELIEVE —
that no matter the consequences, those who are honest with themselves, get farther in life.

I BELIEVE —
that two people can look at the same thing and see something totally different.

I BELIEVE —
that heroes are the people who do what has to be done when it needs to be done, regardless of the consequences.

I BELIEVE —
that you cannot make someone love you; all you can do is be someone who can be loved.

I BELIEVE —
that sometimes the people you think might kick you when you're down, will be the very ones to help you get back up.

I BELIEVE —
that you CAN keep going long after you think you can't.

I BELIEVE —
that sometimes when I'm angry I have the right to be angry, but that doesn't give me the right to be cruel.

I BELIEVE —
that we are responsible for what we do, no matter how we feel.

I BELIEVE —
that it isn't always enough to be forgiven by others ... sometimes you have to learn to forgive yourself.

I BELIEVE —
that there are people who love you dearly, but just don't know how to show it.

I BELIEVE —
that just because two people argue, it doesn't mean they don't love each other and just because they don't argue, it doesn't mean they do.

I BELIEVE —
that it's a process, not an event, for me to become the person I want to be